Thoughts,on a common phrase

So I told myself I would not become one of those people who blog every second of everyday. And well I'm avoiding things (here's a lesson... do NOT avoid things, it solves nothing) and well I just felt like writing. Over the past few hours I've pondered the phrase "Distance makes the heart grow fonder."

 And then I thought some more.. and I thought what a load of bull..Then I spent even more time thinking (probably not the greatest idea)about it and it occurred to me that maybe I was wrong. Maybe distance does make the heart grow fonder. Maybe when there is distance in anything (relationships seem relevant in this case, whether family, friends, a significant other or whatever the case may be) maybe the heart does grow fonder. It makes sense.. If your away from family whether your close or not you're going to want them at some point during some event in your life, happy or sad. If the relationship happens to be with a friend..well some people drift apart. But are there not times that you wish those friendships could be what they once were? Doesn't your heart long for those happy times you had with those friends? And if the relationship deals with a significant other, well if there is distance, doesn't it make you wish you were able to help them with whatever was going on? And so my conclusion is (drum roll please..) distance does make the heart grow fonder. Whether your apart from someone because you (or they) drifted away or because of some other event, your heart longs/has affection for that person in some way.  Even more curious about this phrase I googled it ( yes I know..this screams nerd but..) here's what I came up with: A poet Sextus Propertius, gave the earliest form of this saying in Elegies:"Always toward absent lovers love's tide stronger flows."
And thats it..and theres another lesson, Google sometimes fails. I have personally learned that people come in and out of your life(another lesson..who would have thought) If there is someone in your life, and you don't want distance becoming a factor you have two options: hold on to that relationship by simply letting them know you want them there or let go. Here's the ugly truth, sometimes you may try this and it may fail. But don't fret because if that person was meant to be in your life they will find their way back into it and if they weren't they won't, But always remember new people will come into your life, offering new and exciting things. To follow, I end with the inspiration of the one and only Carrie Bradshaw, 

"As we drive along this road called life, occasionally a gal will find herself a little lost. And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda, buckle up and just keep going."

And I promise next time I post it will be an all about me post :D

Here's to Happy Endings

Feeling inspired by my new found love of Sex and the City, Carrie Bradshaw, and a good friend I thought I would try this out. Reading an entry from my friend’s blog I noticed she had mentioned something about everyone wanting a happy ending. The more I think about this post the more I think she is completely right. Everyone wants a happy ending. Think about it… some of us want it now, some not for a while but in the end isn’t that what we are striving for on most days, to find the happiness within our lives? I guess in a smaller version, the happy ending would be the ending to a perfectly happy day. I can’t help but think maybe this is the reason why the words “I love you” tend to get thrown around without true meaning anymore, bc everyone wants to find it so bad. The more I think (which is not always a good thing) the more I realize maybe this has been my problem lately. I am too concerned with the bigger picture, which is lovely but when things fall apart you have to focus on the smaller pictures to find the bigger one. Lesson #1 things fall apart and you either piece them back together or you walk away.  Whether you’re trying to put a relationship (or anything for that matter) back together or walking away from whatever it may be, know before hand that either option you choose is going to be tough. Which leads me to lesson #2 Do what makes you happy. Don’t give up or stop searching until you find that happy ending.  In the words of Carrie Bradshaw...

“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.”