Frolic Through a Field of Flowers

 Ever feel like you take one step forward and then somehow you end up being two steps behind where you originally were? I think its something that happens to everyone. Unfortunately, for some I think it happens more frequently to certain people then others.  Where exactly to begin.. I guess its like a board game(let's go with... monopoly) when you hit the do not pass go do not collect $200 dollars space.  I guess at one point it has to happen to all of us. And your probably asking yourself what can I do if this happens to me? I'd love to say use a get out of Jail free card, however lesson (#???) In life we don't always come equipped with those cards. Here's one of the hardest things for most people to do in these situations...are you ready for this one?...Sometimes the answer is to do (ready?...) Absolutely nothing.Thats right, sometimes you have sit back and let time pass. Time can be a great thing but it can also be evil. There are just some things no matter how hard you try that need time. And guess what. It is completely OKAY. Let it be. (speaking words of wisdom, let it be...Sorry I'm in a whimsical mood) When you stumble upon this situation here is my advice to you.

-Take some r & r and hangout with the people who bring out the BEST in you..or go frolic in a field of flowers ( caution this one should probably be done by yourself, frolicking could cause you more trouble.) My point is take that time that seems to be the greater evil and find yourself. Because if you lost yourself in the process of taking more steps back then forward it can be an amazing thing when you stumble upon it again.

And of course to end this piece 

“So many roads. So many detours. So many choices. So many mistakes.”- Carrie Bradshaw

Forever Young

It has been a while since I've made a new post. The truth is I have had no idea what to write about, then it hit me. After watching Tangled, The Princess and the Frog, and Toy Story 3...I realized what had been on my mind a lot lately. Growing up. We all do it, we really don't have a choice when it comes down to it. But lets face it, growing up is hard to do.  Who doesn't like the thought of someone being there for you to make you feel better when your sick, to cook you a meal, to protect you, to simply ask you how you are feeling.  Some people grow up too fast never taking time to enjoy a simple experience. Whats more funny is how when we are young, all we want to do is grow up and be "an adult" and then when that time comes all we want is to be young again, to relive certain moments and to have someone there for us every minute of everyday (or close to it). Thinking more on this I realize I miss the normal-ness of things, I miss being a kid.  When you grow up you have to pay bills, have a career to pay for those bills which means a higher education, actually work at a relationship(s), and say hello to this big girl world (or big boy world, I won't discriminate.)  Lesson #13 as you say hello to this world be prepared for a wide variety of replies. Another thing to remember, is although we are all growing up take a minute to enjoy a peaceful moment or to think about a childhood memory.

Growing up gets complicated and sometimes you have to just take a minute and relax.

So if growing up becomes more then you can handle... think of things that take you back and stay forever young.

 Heres some of the things that I loved when I was younger:

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• Playing hide and go seek into what felt like the wee hours of the night(found this on Google)
• Watching shows like Kenan and Kel, All That, Sabrina the Teenage Witch, and all the other little kids shows at that time including Barney
• Popsicles ( I still love them to this day)
• Playing outside all day and being dirty, but not carrying
• Barbies (I had millions)
• Reading 
• Disney
• And so much more

And to end well heres some food for thought:

"When you're young, your whole life is about the pursuit of fun. Then, you grow up and learn to be cautious. You could break a bone or a heart. You look before you leap and sometimes you don't leap at all because there's not always someone there to catch you. And in life, there's no safety net."

-Carrie Bradshaw

Eat.Pray.Love.

Eat Pray Love a fabulous movie. Finally finishing it today, something was said that stuck out to me. "I thank God for fear."  Instantly I thought, "That's a weird thing to thank the higher order above for." Fear. Why would someone be happy about fear?.. We all have fears of something. Fear of a spider, fear of the future, fear of being alone, fear of dying. Why in the world would someone want this? Because truth be told, if we didn't have fear in our lives, we wouldn't worry. We definitely wouldn't have as many problems as we do. Thinking some more, I realized maybe fear is what keeps us grounded at times. Maybe fear is not such a terrible thing that we make it out to be. Fear is what keeps up at night it's what keeps us alive.  Thinking more about fears, I thought about one of mine. Losing something that I don't want to lose, something that I love.  It is fear that makes me constantly worry about this and truth be told fear that has pushed me to thinking I already lost this. Lesson #10 Life's a game and you win parts and you lose parts, either way you have to continue playing.  Although my fear frightens me, it makes me.. me. Without this fear would I not be the stronger person that I am today? Was it not that fear that pushed me into certain situations and that fear that left me battered and bruised at times? (I realize this sentence sounds very dark, and thats not what I'm going for). I guess my point is that fear can be good because fear makes us..us. It shapes us into who we have become and although that can be scary the ugly truth is its life. True you may over come a fear but once you get rid of that one, there always seems to be another one to take its place. You have to take the bad(or what seems to be bad) and make it good, no matter what the situation.

And yes I always add with the great Carrie Bradshaw but tonight I decided a quote from the movie would do just fine... Ketut : "Do not look at the world through your head; look at it through your heart."

The Girl Who has Yet to LIVE

Day number 3, I believe I have become an addict....to writing that is. I promised a blog all about me and since its past midnight, i'm bored and currently have 27 minutes until my laundry is done here it goes. The girl who has yet to live.. My name is..Frances. I hate my name but it makes me, me. (How many Frankie's do you know?) I have come to terms that when I'm old my name will be in style and I will love it.( Come on...did you think I was not going to throw at least one lesson in here some where...Love who you are and surround yourself with the people who love you for you) I love my family and friends old and new. They mean the world to me. One day I will go to Italy. It will happen and although it may be a terribly long flight I believe a girl or guy for that matter should see the world there is a lot to see.Mi piacerebbe visitare qui ed essere in grado di parlare la lingua italiana.. Meaning I would love to visit here and be able to speak the Italian language. If you know me you would know I would drop everything or anything to go there and so its decided I must go there at least once. 
And because I'm tired of writing about myself in this way i decided just to make a story for the heck of it.
There once was a girl who had yet to fully live.
She was in college and learning plenty of lessons as she was studying to become a teacher. She was learning that family and friends are something that are valuable and something that needs to be held on too with the tightest grasp. She was learning that relationships of all sorts were hard.She was having a hard time telling people what she meant and what she wanted. So here's what she wants.... a career, doing what she wants. A happy ending full of a family of her own, she wanted this sooner then later but found a lesson that some people must wait for that happy ending. She wants to tell the people she cares about that she cares about them a lot but again is struggling to find the right words. This girl wants to travel, to places in the U.S. to foreign countries like Italy and France, She dreams big. And here is the last lesson from the girl who has yet to fully live... Follow your heart, do what you think is best, and dream big. Know that the Ugly Truth of this may mean people may become annoyed of you and may push you away or try to keep you down, but you must push through when times get tough. Because here is another lesson times will get tough. But you should not worry because they will get better. And as the early morning approaches the girl who has yet to fully live has decided bed is calling her name and the dryer just went off so she must get her clothes. So she must get going, but blogging again seems to be in the near future.
 And of course..“When real people fall down in life, they get right back up and keep walking.”-Carrie Bradshaw

Thoughts,on a common phrase

So I told myself I would not become one of those people who blog every second of everyday. And well I'm avoiding things (here's a lesson... do NOT avoid things, it solves nothing) and well I just felt like writing. Over the past few hours I've pondered the phrase "Distance makes the heart grow fonder."

 And then I thought some more.. and I thought what a load of bull..Then I spent even more time thinking (probably not the greatest idea)about it and it occurred to me that maybe I was wrong. Maybe distance does make the heart grow fonder. Maybe when there is distance in anything (relationships seem relevant in this case, whether family, friends, a significant other or whatever the case may be) maybe the heart does grow fonder. It makes sense.. If your away from family whether your close or not you're going to want them at some point during some event in your life, happy or sad. If the relationship happens to be with a friend..well some people drift apart. But are there not times that you wish those friendships could be what they once were? Doesn't your heart long for those happy times you had with those friends? And if the relationship deals with a significant other, well if there is distance, doesn't it make you wish you were able to help them with whatever was going on? And so my conclusion is (drum roll please..) distance does make the heart grow fonder. Whether your apart from someone because you (or they) drifted away or because of some other event, your heart longs/has affection for that person in some way.  Even more curious about this phrase I googled it ( yes I know..this screams nerd but..) here's what I came up with: A poet Sextus Propertius, gave the earliest form of this saying in Elegies:"Always toward absent lovers love's tide stronger flows."
And thats it..and theres another lesson, Google sometimes fails. I have personally learned that people come in and out of your life(another lesson..who would have thought) If there is someone in your life, and you don't want distance becoming a factor you have two options: hold on to that relationship by simply letting them know you want them there or let go. Here's the ugly truth, sometimes you may try this and it may fail. But don't fret because if that person was meant to be in your life they will find their way back into it and if they weren't they won't, But always remember new people will come into your life, offering new and exciting things. To follow, I end with the inspiration of the one and only Carrie Bradshaw, 

"As we drive along this road called life, occasionally a gal will find herself a little lost. And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda, buckle up and just keep going."

And I promise next time I post it will be an all about me post :D

Here's to Happy Endings

Feeling inspired by my new found love of Sex and the City, Carrie Bradshaw, and a good friend I thought I would try this out. Reading an entry from my friend’s blog I noticed she had mentioned something about everyone wanting a happy ending. The more I think about this post the more I think she is completely right. Everyone wants a happy ending. Think about it… some of us want it now, some not for a while but in the end isn’t that what we are striving for on most days, to find the happiness within our lives? I guess in a smaller version, the happy ending would be the ending to a perfectly happy day. I can’t help but think maybe this is the reason why the words “I love you” tend to get thrown around without true meaning anymore, bc everyone wants to find it so bad. The more I think (which is not always a good thing) the more I realize maybe this has been my problem lately. I am too concerned with the bigger picture, which is lovely but when things fall apart you have to focus on the smaller pictures to find the bigger one. Lesson #1 things fall apart and you either piece them back together or you walk away.  Whether you’re trying to put a relationship (or anything for that matter) back together or walking away from whatever it may be, know before hand that either option you choose is going to be tough. Which leads me to lesson #2 Do what makes you happy. Don’t give up or stop searching until you find that happy ending.  In the words of Carrie Bradshaw...

“Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous.”